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Wednesday, April 16, 2014

CHILDISH PLEASURE

"Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of man."
~R. Tagore~
 
Some children are simply wonderful to behold- so free from self-consciousness and full of joy for simple things. I saw a little girl wearing a purple tutu and skipping into Costco, and a little boy with a huge smile saying, "You know what? I LOVE this place!"
     When did we get so grouchy as adults? Let's restore our sense of playfulness and delight.

I let the child within me feel a sense of wonder and excitement for all of the little happenings of life.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

CONDITION OF LIFE

"I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing."
~Agatha Christie~
 
It's an error on our parts to think that we should reach a place where we are completely pain free and be able to sustain it. Everything is variable. If we don't hurt in one way or one place, we will likely experience some aches and discomforts elsewhere. Aches and pains are part of the human condition. Sometimes they are barely noticeable and sometimes they pummel us insistently.
     Let's learn to take whatever we feel in stride, whether it's physical or emotional. Let's accept and befriend the conversation of our bodies and our minds.

I don't expect to live pain-free. I am ok with my suffering and take it in stride.

Monday, April 14, 2014

THE WAY WE FIND THINGS

"Expectations are like fine pottery. The harder we hold them, the more likely they are to crack."
~Brandon Sanderson~
 
Sometimes we have expectations without even knowing that we have them. We don't realize until we show up and feel disappointed, that it's not what we thought; that it's smaller, or bigger, or too loud, or not spacious enough, or whatever it may be. Who knew that we had it all figured out in our minds just how great we were going to have it, and what good times would be had?
     The only thing to do, at such a realization point, is to acknowledge that we had an expectation, unbeknownst though it may have been to us, and to let it go. And then, we need to accept the situation as it actually is, and find the good in it. Anything less is guaranteed resentment, and none of us needs that.

When I realize that I have unmet expectations, I release them to the wind. My wanting things to be other than they are doesn't change the facts.

Friday, April 11, 2014

WHAT IS

"Whatever IS, is right."
~Alexander Pope~

Acceptance is not always a happy affair. Sometimes the truth is hard to swallow without a lump in the throat. And sometimes, what is, is sad. But that doesn't mean it's not worthy of our loving care and attention, or that we don't have to accept it.
     I feel sad sometimes for the losses I've survived and the self-deception and suffering of the human race. But the sadness always passes, and hope returns again, and I remember that happy has its portion in my life, just like sorrow, and both are mine, unequivocally, to accept.

I cease fighting the shifting emotional currents of my life. I feel happy when I'm happy, and sad when I'm sad.

Thursday, April 10, 2014

SUNSHINE

"Sunshine is delicious."
~John Ruskin~

I love the sunshine! I love its brightness and its warmth and its healing energy. Everything feels better when the sun is out, especially after days of rain and greyness. It is the best kind of goodness. The sun comes bearing so much more than just physical light.

I understand about sun worship and sing my own kind of praises. The beautiful sun is a magnificent thing.

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

THE REAL DEAL

"Truth only reveals itself when one gives up all preconceived ideas."
~Shoseki~
 
Our self perception is skewed at best. We distort ourselves in all kinds of ways. We think we are worse than we are, or better; thinner, or fatter; kinder, or more forgiving. Honest self-appraisal is valuable beyond measure, but it is hard-won. We have to work for it.
     We have to learn to question ourselves and check our motives, to realistically evaluate our attributes and our character flaws, and to find a way to be ok with ourselves- not as some inflated or self-deprecated version of ourselves, but simply as we are.

I accept myself completely as I am, with all of my gifts and imperfections.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

HARD LESSON

"Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him."
~Booker T. Washington~
 
One of the lessons that we all have to learn in life is that we can't save people who don't know they need saving, and we can't help people who don't want help, and we can't reason with people who are unreasonable. And this is not a sometimes kind of thing. It's a fact. No matter how hard we try, or how much we want to, or the limitlessness of our love, we cannot.
     And trying to do so is much like banging our head against an unbreakable wall. We have the power to make our head hurt, but no more. And the sooner we learn this, the easier our path will be. We waste precious time and emotional energy trying to affect change where it is not within our power to do so.

There are limits to my power: I cannot fix other people, and the sooner I learn this the better I will feel.