"Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond."
~ Wayne Dyer ~
We are constantly judging ourselves and others by unconscious standards. How are we doing? How do we, or they, measure up? And how does life measure up- to our expectation, and our sense of right and wrong and how things should really be?
It's the "should" that gets us, and mostly at the thinking level. We should be better, stronger, thinner, further along the path. And our friends and family should be this, that or the other thing. And life! Well, life should definitely be easier, and more fun.
Whatever the hidden scale may be, the challenge is that neither we, nor the people around us, nor the world is usually as we would have them be, so we experience letdown, and a sense of frustration and lack. Let's change this. Let's leave the shoulds behind, raise our awareness, and move into choice and acceptance instead of punishing, deconstructive judgment.
I examine the extent and negative impact of my "shoulds," and accept myself and others as we are.