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Sunday, March 24, 2019

DISAPPROVAL

"People will disapprove of you if you're unhappy or if you're happy in The Wrong Way."
~ Mignon McLaughlin ~


I am sensitive to the disapproval of others, and I imagine I'm not the only one who is.
Let's be sure to judge not, lest we be judged.

I make generous allowances for people and keep my negative opinions in check. 

Thursday, March 21, 2019

THINKING OTHERS SHOULD KNOW

"Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought."
~ John F. Kennedy ~

When my children (twins) were little I bought them mini-tricycles with handles so I could push them both at the same time and all they had to do was keep their feet on the pedals and steer: obvious and simple... except that they didn't know how to steer. At age two, they had no experience with it or reference to it. And still, it made me mad when I shouted, "Steer!" and they didn't know.
     How often in life do we expect others to know what we think they should know and feel frustrated when they don't?

I make no assumptions.

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

MENTAL SCULPTURE

"Our thoughts are unseen hands shaping the people we meet. Whatever we truly think them to be, that's what they'll become for us."
~ Richard Cowper ~

Though some people seem to thrive on them, I have never understood grudges. 
I prefer forgiveness and compassionate understanding. 
They make me feel better than resentment, 
which seems worth it, 
because I have to live with myself.

Life is too dear for intolerance and spite. 

Tuesday, March 19, 2019

OPPOSITES INTACT

"Do I contradict myself?
Very well, then, I contradict myself.
I am vast. I contain multitudes."
~ Walt Whitman ~


I am small and powerless and sensitive,
And I am also irrepressibly strong.
I am angry and also at peace.
I am sorry and not sorry,
free and not free,
alone and never alone. 
I contain all opposites.
I have space in me 
For every experience in life.

I am full.

Monday, March 18, 2019

CIRCLING TIME

"This is my Birthday, and a happier one
Was never mine..."
~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow ~

I find that life gets better and better the older I get. 
Age is a unique blessing of raised consciousness and the experience of all we've been through.
It's my Birthday,
I am 51 years old,
And I embrace the evolution of my soul.

I experience getting older as a gift.  

Sunday, March 17, 2019

WADING THROUGH THE MUCK

"Sometimes it is the person closest to us who must travel the furthest distance to be our friend."
~ Robert Brault ~

I like my relationships to be clean and copacetic- everybody happy and everything good- and yet, relationships by their very nature are not that. They're messy and speculative. We project our insecurities and our past trauma onto the other, and they project theirs onto us.
     Relationships are full of mis-perception, and the only way that I know of to right what appears to be wrong is to speak up and share from the heart anytime and every time something emotionally uncomfortable comes up- not to establish fault or blame, but to clear confusion and make fresh room for the love that has been lost.

Communication is the key to all of my relationships.  

Thursday, March 14, 2019

QUESTIONS

"Who is wise?
He that learns from everyone."
~ Ben Franklin ~

We get to know people by asking them about themselves. 
Questions lead to information that gives us insight 
and access to common ground.

I take a genuine interest in the people I encounter.