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Thursday, August 17, 2017

SHARING POWER

"What saves a man is to take a step." 
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery ~

Expressing what feels scary to express is liberating. Speaking the unspoken shines light on it and shrinks its power. When we hide our fears and dark thoughts in silence, they grow bigger and darker. When we let them out, when we give them away with words, there exists the possibility of transformation and release. So let's gather our courage and speak up. Let's free ourselves from our secrets and self-judgment.

I share my fears and insecurities as well as my hopes. 


Wednesday, August 16, 2017

THE ACKNOWLEDGEMENT PAYOFF

"Kind deeds often come back to the givers in fairer shapes than they go. " 
~ Louisa May Alcott ~

Generosity and gratitude guarantee good times. We can't help but benefit from giving and appreciating- both acknowledgements- in the first case of being prosperous (we have enough to share!) and in the last of being blessed- with life, and beauty, and people, and love!

I am generous and grateful. 

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

DISCERNMENT

"You shall not look through my eyes either, nor take things from me. You shall listen to all sides and filter them from yourself." 
~ Walt Whitman ~

We need suggestions from others on occasion, and help as well. What we don't need is to completely hand over all of our decision making power, or to cow-tow, or shrink ourselves thinking we are lesser. The thing to do with ideas is to process them through our own value system, to filter them, consider them, see how they fit and feel, and then adapt them to us, not just recklessly take them on as our own without discernment.
     We are so quick to hand over our power. Let's not be. Let's ground ourselves and be centered and responsive rather than reactive, and considering rather than controlled.

I listen, absorb, consider, and choose before I act.

Monday, August 14, 2017

FIGHT OR FLIGHT

"Good instincts usually tell you what to do long before your head has figured it out." 
~ Michael Burke ~

The fight or flight question is an interesting one. When truly faced with a real threat, which is our instinct? Which do we choose? Do we flee the scene as quickly as possible to get out of harms way? Or do we run into it to see if we can help others or stand off the foe, whatever the foe may be?
     Like everything else in life, I can see merit and validity to both sides, so ultimately, I suppose, and as with all things, it depends on the situation, and what our gut tells us, and intervention from whoever we're with, and from above.

In a crises situation, I do whatever feels right.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

WE THE PEOPLE

"Only from the heart can you touch the sky." 
~ Rumi ~

Meeting new people and making new friends is a pleasure and a delight. We each have so much to offer and to learn- so much life experience and the gift of our personal perspective.
     I like people. I like their vulnerability, their humor, their changing moods and faces, and the love in their hearts.

I celebrate the gift of people!

Thursday, August 10, 2017

LIFE'S REQUIREMENT

"Courage is to feel the daily daggers of relentless steel and keep on living." 
~ Douglas Malloch ~

So much  of what makes us beautiful as human beings is our vulnerability, and our bravery in the face of all that we cannot control. Living, ultimately, is a courageous act, and it serves us well to acknowledge that, and to appreciate each other as we travel the road.

I celebrate courage in facing the unknown and honor the journey of each day.

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

LOVE AS STRATEGY

"Gamble everything for love, if you're a true human being. If not, leave this gathering." 
~ Rumi ~

Love is the ultimate power and by it's nature yielding rather than demanding, and gentle rather than hard. And I'm not sure about "tough love" which almost seems passive aggressive in a way- being certain of what's best even if it feels harsh and brutal...    
     We can be loving and set boundaries. We can be loving and say no. Love does not preclude self-care or doing what's right- it has to do with our intention, and the energy within us as we move through the world.

I am honest about the difference between actually being loving and using love as a cover story for manipulation and getting my way.

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

CONTROL ISSUES :)

"There's a way of breathing that's a shame and a suffocation and there's another way of expiring, a love breath, that lets you open infinitely." 
~ Rumi ~

When we stop trying to control what we can't control anyway, there is an experience of great relief and relaxation. To let go, to stop pushing and driving and "over-efforting" is a beautiful thing. And the paradox is that as soon as we stop, energy is often released that allows what we have been pushing for all along to happen at last.

I stop insisting and demanding and allow for grace to take over.

Monday, August 7, 2017

THINKING WE KNOW BEST

"Think not because the chrysalis struggles that it is in need of you. Oh! I pray you, stay your eager hands, lest you despoil its silver wings." 
~ Muriel Strode ~

What works for others may not work for us, and what works for us may not work for others. "One man's trash is another man's treasure," and "To each his own" both apply here. Plus, our believing that we know what's best often has a hidden agenda component, and may actually be rooted in a desire to control a situation in order to alleviate our fears surrounding it.
     But maybe we're just supposed to feel the fear- to acknowledge that it's there, reaffirm our faith, and then do what's in front of us. Maybe our wanting to fix others can be resolved as simply as that.

I stop thinking I can fix other people and love them as they are instead.


Sunday, August 6, 2017

KNOWING WHO WE ARE FIRST

"I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do." 
~ Edward Everett Hale ~

We have to be somewhat clear on who we are and what we're all about before we go looking for advice. Others will readily tell us exactly what we should do, and how to go about it, and the more people we ask, the more instructions we can accumulate, so we need to know what guides us, and what matters- our values, and our non-negotiables.
     And it's better, perhaps, to enroll others in our idea and let them contribute theirs to it, than to show up without any idea whatsoever and let them steer our ship.

I invite people on board, but keep my hand on the tiller.

Thursday, August 3, 2017

COMMUNITY BEAUTY

"One is a member of a country, a profession, a civilization, a religion. One is not just a man." 
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery ~

We may be able to accomplish things of value without caring for others, but the value can't endure. It's impossible to thrive in total isolation on our own steam. We need others, and others need us. And what we can accomplish together is so much more beautiful than anything that results from the solo drive.

I engage others in my hopes and dreams.

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

EVERY-WHICH-WAY THINGS GROW

"I learn more about God
From weeds than from roses;
Resilience springing
Through the smallest chink of hope
in the absolute of concrete."
~Phillip Pulfrey ~

There are all kinds of ways to grow- up, down, sideways, around things. Half-dead trees and bushes grow, and so do choking vines, and seedlings in pots. So there's no right way- there's just growth.
     We can trim it, tame it, fertilize it, nurture it with love- whatever we do with the growth in our lives, that's our choice. The point is to recognize that there are no limits on it, and no particular way it has to look.

I am grateful to recognize that everything living is growing in its own way.

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

BEING THE NEW GUY

"It is clear that the way to heal society of its violence... and lack of love is to replace the pyramid of domination with the circle of equality and respect." 
~ Manitonquat ~

At a local dog park, where dogs are allowed off leash, our dog, Boss, was the unsuspecting victim of gang violence. That's what it felt like. A big greyhound was feeling territorial, and he kept messing with Boss, and then he attacked, and before Boss could defend himself, four or five other dogs joined in and were on top of him, one of them with his jaws clamped and no letting up. It was a terrible scene. Miraculously, Boss walked away without any injury other than soreness and pride- no blood, and nothing that required emergency care. But the emotional cost was high... for us as well.
     And it occurred to me that we do the same thing sometimes to the new guy. We gather together and judge and attack- not with a gripping bite perhaps, but with stinging words and whispers. And the new guy feels as traumatized as Boss did.
     Let's not start fights. Let's extend a hand. Let's be friendly and welcoming. Let's remember that we too were once the new guy...

I remember how hard it is to be new at things and am willing to be welcoming and kind.

Monday, July 31, 2017

SELF-IMPOSED PRESSURE

"One of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one's work is terribly important." 
~ Bertrand Russell ~

We create urgencies in our heads. We create tension in our bodies. Things are not going as smoothly or as quickly as we want them to, or others are not reacting as we feel they should. We try to manufacture reality as it pleases us, but with little success.
     One of my least favorite expressions from many years ago is that time takes time. I like it better now- and understand the wisdom in it... and yet, there are still days where I want to exert my will and demand things of the hours I have. But no amount of exertion will do the trick. Time really does take time, and each thing fills the space it fills and requires the care it requires, and no amount of rushing or insistence changes that.
     Settling in for the duration, committing to enjoy the process, taking breaks when necessary to refresh our perspectives- all of these help. And so does self-care, and so does a good night's sleep.

I accept the process of developing ideas and budding creativity and know that they cannot be forced.


   

Sunday, July 30, 2017

EATING CLEAN

"Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live." 
~ Jim Rohn ~

Eating clean seems so obvious. It’s how we feel best. And yet, we don’t do it. We convince ourselves that we can eat whatever we want whenever we want, and we can, but we fool ourselves into thinking there won’t be consequences, and, of course, there are.
     So let’s choose the consequence of feeling great, and do whatever we need to do to make that happen.

I take good care of my body.

Thursday, July 27, 2017

TAKING A STAND

“There is more to life than getting things done.” 
~ Jon Kabat-Zinn ~

It’s so easy to get caught up in being busy. We pride ourselves on how busy we are. We compare and compete- who’s busiest as if that gives us some kind of measurable merit. But it doesn’t. Not really.
     Our value is in being, in appreciating what’s around us, connecting with others at a heart level, being authentic, and honoring our truth. And yet, these things seem less culturally acceptable than being busy.
     Let’s change this. It’s within our power to do so. Let’s take a stand for our humanity. Let’s take a stand for the state of our souls.

I value the humanity in myself and others.

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

WHAT MATTERS

"The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live." 
~ Flora Whittemore ~

Everything matters. Attending to each detail of our lives with care and integrity makes for a life that feels valuable and appreciated.
     And also- nothing matters. We could die in our sleep and have that be the end of it.
     And also- certain things, people, and principles matter more than others. Our partner matters more to us than a stranger on the other side of the world.
     Arguments can be made for and against every possible position on every possible front. So where that leaves us is wherever we choose to take a stand.

I am clear on what’s important to me.

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

WHEN WE WANT SOMETHING

"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." 
~ Shakespeare ~

When we want something, we cannot see it clearly. All we see, and all we experience, is the wanting. And then, when we get it, it’s never quite as we imagined. It’s better in some ways, usually, and worse in others. It’s yin and yang and this and that and whatever it is- a mix. But when we were wanting it, all we could conceive of was the good, so it’s always a bit of a shock when reality sets in.
     Nothing is all good or all bad, and remembering that, we can take comfort in things, and people, exactly as they are- as more of a discovery than a knowing, and more of a curiosity than a fact.


I keep my mind open to all possibilities.

Monday, July 24, 2017

THE CHANGING NATURE OF FEELINGS

"It came to pass..." 
~ The Bible ~

When we are all twisted up inside, sometimes we can work it out on our own, sometimes we need a friend to point it out to us, sometimes the passage of time corrects it, sometimes something happens to snap us into a fresh perspective, and sometimes the cure comes through conversation.
     However it happens, the point is that it does, and what a blessing in that! We are not doomed to experience any feelings permanently. They come, they work through us on some level, and then they go. And hopefully, we learn something along the way.


I trust in the coming and going of my feelings.

Sunday, July 23, 2017

WHERE WE ROOT OURSELVES

"I will get my feet down to the earth." 
~ HD Thoreau ~

Life is such an up and down affair. We’re hot, we’re cold; we’re thrilled, we’re bored; we’re unstoppably confident and we’re filled with doubt. We flip-flop endlessly all around the map and are as changeable as the weather- our thoughts and moods as much as our bodies
     So where is center? Where is groundedness? Where is stability? The only possible place must be in the truth of each present moment- of what is so. Beyond that, it’s nothing but a mind game; nothing but speculation and posturing, fantasy, and fear.


I ground myself in the present moment.

Thursday, July 20, 2017

QUIETING THE MIND

"Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak." 
~ Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati ~

A busy mind is often a sign of fear or fret, sometimes a gift of rushing insight, but more often than not, just noise. And to quiet it, we need to breathe, to observe our thoughts rather than engage them, and to compassionately allow ourselves to be- free from thinking, free from planning, and free from distress.

I breathe deeply and surrender anew in each moment.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

BEING WHERE WE ARE

"Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life." 
~ Eckhart Tolle ~

Sometimes I am so excited for what's to come that I want it to come sooner, and I can hardly wait for it. I am restless, and can't sleep. And yet, everything comes in its own time and goes in its own time and forcing it it to be or do anything other than that is futile and leaves us agitated. Peace can only be experienced in acceptance of what is happening now.

I let go of the future and fully experience what's happening now. 

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

BEING EXCITED

"I giggle happy thoughts." 
~ Terri Guillemets ~

Being excited about new possibilities awakens something primal in us. Energy rushes to the ready- ready to begin, to create, to establish, to build. A sense of aliveness courses through the mind and body like high-voltage electricity. We are filled with ideas and the power, inspiration, vision, audacity, and faith to back them.
     Excitement at this level makes it hard to sleep. Like a horse at the gate we are amped up and ready to run. And yet, sleep we must. The creative journey is more than a few laps around the track, and requires our ongoing stamina, and sustained momentum over time.

My creative excitement is a slow burning fire.

Sunday, July 16, 2017

SHARING OUR HUMANITY

"There is comfort where we overlap." 
~ Ani Difranko ~

When we are lonely, the best thing we can do is engage someone we don't know in a conversation and find out about them. Such sharing takes us out of ourselves and awakens us to the energy of shared humanity, which is a beautiful and powerful thing. We discover ourselves in the other, and that brings us both into the light.

I ask people about themselves and listen from the heart.

Thursday, July 13, 2017

FILL THE DARK

"Let soul and world meet." 
~ Rumi ~

Fresh. Deep. Clean. Neat.
Warrior. Savior. Captor. Thief.
Friend. Foe. Above. Below.
Hollowed out like a cave in the snow.
Emergent. Convergent. Stupendous and Bright.
Be rich and warm like the dark filled with light.

I am a candle that never burns out.

Wednesday, July 12, 2017

THE VALUE DRIVEN LIFE

"For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, but loses his soul?" 
~ Matthew:16-26 ~

Sometimes when we set a goal, we become so focused on it that we blind ourselves to all other possibilities along the way, and become inadvertently rigid and inflexible. And yet, we get benefit from so many other things that come to us along the way. Our lessons come from everything that happens, and, if we're honest, lessons are really the ultimate goal, so while it may be good strategy to aim for a specific outcome, and even necessary to a fulfilled life to do so, the truth is that having goals may not be nearly as important as having guiding principles to live by- principles that direct our path and inform our decisions and root us in something steady, and solid, and secure.

I live by my values even more than my goals.

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

THE POWER OF BEING ONE

"I am a part of all that I have met." 
~ Alfred Lord Tennyson ~

Everything that matters is connected. As soon as I start to separate and quantify things like productivity, personal growth, compassion, love, integrity, and wholeness, I realize that they are all inextricably inner related, and that one cannot exist without the other, just as we, as individuals cannot, and do not, exist without each other. We are related at a core level to our fellow man.
     And this is good news. It means that we are stronger, wiser, and bolder than we thought; that we have resources beyond our imagining, and that we are vast beyond measure. What a comfort in this- to know that being kind is also being productive, that sharing through conversation is also creating possibilities in life, that living clean is also growing in spirit, and that opening our hearts is also serving the world.

All is connected, and all is one. I begin anywhere and affect everything.

Monday, July 10, 2017

GUILT FREE LIVING

"Guilt is always hungry. Don't let it consume you."
~ Terri Guillemets ~

It's so easy to think that we should be doing other than we are, be eating other than we ate, and be functionally better in every way; and the self-doubt and second-guessing that comes along with this frame of mind is emotionally crippling. It keeps us from being able to relax. We are always looking away from where we are to anywhere else and telling ourselves we should this, that, and the other thing. We should be networking. We should be busy cleaning our house. We should be losing weight, getting fit, feeling differently than we do about our lives, our families and ourselves.
     Let's get off the "should" bandwagon, and allow ourselves simply to be. It feels indulgent. It feels like we're letting ourselves off the hook, and maybe we are. But don't we deserve that? Don't we deserve to be less than perfect, less than totally maximized and actualized at every moment, and less than the run-ragged pace of modern, incessantly busy, chaotic life?

I get off the guilt bandwagon and let myself be. 

Sunday, July 9, 2017

LEARNING TO HOLD SPACE

"Having too many things about us is a certain confusion to the intellect." 
~ Oscar C. McCullouch ~

Creativity isn't born from busy-ness. When we are pushing ahead full steam and keeping up with all the obligations of our lives, there's no room for inspiration to visit us. We are completely full-up squirreling around on the wheel of urgency. So we have to learn how to hold space, and how to consecrate it.
     Doing everything we can to control our environment, other people, outcomes, incomes, and the world at large, we become jammed and crammed and brimming over, so we have to let go a bit, and then let go some more, and make creating space a priority. When we do that, we invite inspiration, and when we invite inspiration, something in us empties and clears out, and we remember what matters, and who matters, and why we are here.

I create space and invite inspiration.

Thursday, July 6, 2017

THE POWER OF TREES

"You can live for years next door to a big pine tree, honored to have so venerable a neighbor, even when it sheds needles all over your flowers or wakes you, dropping big cones onto your deck at still of night." 
~ Denise Levertov ~

There is solace in trees, and the bigger they are, the more earthed and solid energy they provide. Just to be in their company is soothing to the spirit- the smell of them, and their bark and leaves and roots and trunk. Trees are good company, good grounding, and good inspiration, and just the right tree in just the right place makes the soul light up, the heart lift, and the nerves settle and ease.

I love and appreciate the trees of the world! 


Wednesday, July 5, 2017

THE FREEDOM OF NEUTRALITY

"Whosoever knoweth the power of the dance, dwelleth in God." 
~ Rumi ~

Attachment and aversion both hitch us up emotionally. Wanting something too badly, we tighten with the fear of not getting it, and being repulsed closes us to legitimate options.
     Moving forward in trust and neutrality, we can see and experience our lives free from fear and judgment; free from angst, upset, fury, and fret.

I trust things to fall into place, to know what I need to know when I need to know it, and to open to unseen and unconsidered possibilities that will make perfect sense as soon as they show up.

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

SELF-DOUBT AND ARROGANCE

 "The time and place are mine when I am equal to the time and place." 
~ Muriel Strode ~

Self-doubt and arrogance are blood brothers. They shut down options- one turned in on itself, and the other by disrespect from others as we gallivant about pretending we're better than we are. Being right-sized is the answer- honest about our strengths and honest about where we fall short; about what we want, what we need, what limits us, what we're afraid of, and what we are willing to risk.
     In the clear air of truth we have power and can take action. Stuck in self-doubt, or over-puffed with arrogance, we shut door after door of opportunity on our own precious selves.

I am honest about what I am, what I have to offer, and what I do not.
   

Monday, July 3, 2017

THE BENEFITS OF OCCASIONAL AIMLESSNESS

"Every man who possibly can should force himself to a holiday of a full month in a year, whether he feels like taking it or not."
~ William James ~

Living in a meandering way is excruciating at first when we are accustomed to a driven life. And then, somewhere along the way, a kind of easy humor sets in, an acceptance of the lack of intensity, and the experience of a renewed pleasure in the company of the people we love.
     It's refreshing to be aimless, to have dog walks and laundry be the big events of the day, especially knowing that the aimlessness won't last, and that the intensity will return, and probably times ten.

I enjoy meandering a bit when circumstances allow.

Sunday, July 2, 2017

EVERYTHING WE'VE GOT

"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." 
~ Viktor Frankl ~

I like to make plans- to have a purpose, and be on track for a goal. And sometimes, it works out just right. And other times, my plans crumble into laughable pieces right in front of my eyes. I am all prepared for one thing, and then it's something else entirely. I adjust to the adjustment, and get myself squared away, and then something else comes along.
     Life is like that. It requires our humor, our flexibility, our ongoing willingness, and, ultimately, everything we've got.

I am adaptable, and roll with the punches. 

Thursday, June 29, 2017

CHANGING MOODS WITH GRATITUDE

"Gratitude is the memory of the heart." 
~ Jean Baptiste Massieu ~

I am grateful for my health and for small pleasures; for Nature, people, conversation, solitude, and the feeling of getting into bed at the end of a long day. I am grateful for chocolate, soft molasses cookies, and stargazer lilies. I am grateful to be married to my best friend, and for things always having a way of working out. I am grateful for the sun, for stars on a clear night, and crisp, fresh mornings.
     When I feel funky, I can start anywhere and focus on what makes me grateful, and it builds on itself, and before long, I start to feel grateful, and blessed with blessings, and just all around better from the inside out.

Being grateful makes me feel good.

BE LIKE A BABBLING BROOK

"If God had wanted to be a big secret, He would not have invented babbling brooks and whispering pines." 
~ Robert Brault ~

We live cluttered lives with cluttered minds and don't even know it, busy as we are keeping up with our daily demands and desires. Creating open space, both internally and externally can be a conduit for a sense of relaxation and ease. With distance and perspective comes a slowing of time, an increased appreciation for each moment, and a disinterest in multi-tasking to get things done.
     Life is meant to have a bit of a meandering quality to it and not be so jam-packed and pressure driven. It's a babbling brook navigating meadows rather than a blast from a fire hose, and yet, so often, that's how we experience it. Let's not. Let's learn to babble a bit, and trickle around stones and over mossy banks.

I slow down and create space in my life for meandering. 

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

INTO THE FUTURE

"Tomorrow is fresh." 
~ L.M. Montgomery ~

The future awaits us, and blindly, we travel towards it. We press forward, full of courage and faith that it will play out, that we will be unexpectedly blessed by angels along the way, and that we will find what we're looking for.
     Adventure is guaranteed, and life lessons. Everything else we create for ourselves as we go.

I welcome the daily mix of intention and surprise, and keep my good humor as I travel the road. 

BEING FRESH AND NEW

"Life is always a rich and steady time when you are waiting for something to happen or to hatch."
~ EB White ~

If we want to create something new in our lives, we have to let go of everything old and tired first. If we try to build on top of what's been there for years and years we will just get more of the same. A fresh start requires a clean slate and an inner emptiness, space to grow, and an open heart and mind. New is not more or better, it's new! And it takes some clearing on our part to make way for what wants to come into being in our lives.

I let go of all that has historically constrained me, and open to the new! 

Sunday, June 25, 2017

THE POWER OF WILDFLOWERS

"Flowers... are a proud assertion that a ray of beauty outvalues all the utilities of the world. " 
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~

Wildflowers cling to rocks and grow out of crevices at the top of windy mountains. They grow on dusty roadsides, and in the most inhospitable places available- the places where no grass can take root. They are paupers when it comes to growing spots, and yet, there they are, brightening the landscape with their color and their cheerful blooms.
     We can become so precious in the fulfillment of our needs. Let's take a lesson from wildflowers, and bloom wherever we land.

I blow in the wind and bloom brightly like wildflowers.

Thursday, June 22, 2017

CHOICE AND FREEDOM

"Confront your dream and... decide, once and for all, if you want it." 
~ Joe Kita ~

We are more tangled up in our pasts than we realize. Thoughts, beliefs, images, and hurts haunt our every step, dictate our actions, and impede our progress, such that we become an accumulation of everything that's ever happened to us. We become a "happend to" instead of a happening.
     In order to re-claim our power, we have to recognize that we have added all kinds of personal significance to the historical facts, such as they are, and we can stay stuck in the way it all currently exists for us, or choose to create a new significance any time we like.
     Choice is our birthright. Choice and freedom.

I live free from the tangles of the past.

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

BEING CURIOUS

"A sense of curiosity is nature's original school of education."
~ Smiley Blanton ~

We make assumptions about other people based on who we are and how we are feeling. Consequently, the vast majority of our judgments are in error, based on our mood and our mindset rather than truth itself.
     Let's recognize that what we are certain we know about others may not be completely accurate, listen free from internal dialog, and be willing to clearly see and hear who is actually there.

I open to curiosity and make room in life for what I don't know I don't know.

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

LIVING WITH PURPOSE

"Men, like nails, lose their usefulness when they lose direction and begin to bend." 
~ Walter Savage Landor ~

Having something to work towards satisfies the soul. To be floundering about aimlessly is uncomfortable, untenable, and unwise. Let's strive to some purpose, whether personal or worldly, and enjoy the pleasure of a life on track and with aim.

Having a purpose inspires my life.


Monday, June 19, 2017

CREATING A CLEARING FOR NEW POSSIBILITY

"Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself." 
~ Rumi ~

Letting go of physical stuff we have been holding onto for years is an interesting process. It is both freeing and revealing- freeing in that we let go and revealing in that we have all kinds of fret about what we might need in the future, or what we might miss once it's gone.
     Healthy living is a continuous process of release and renewal, and we can't experience either if we won't disperse the energy that is stuck in our things.

I let go of all my inessential physical stuff.

Sunday, June 18, 2017

DIGNITY AND PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT

"The way to make people trustworthy is to trust them." 
~ Ernest Hemingway ~

One of the greatest gifts we can give to another is to trust them with their own autonomy, and not to be controlling or manipulative or think we know better than they do what's best. When we allow others their dignity, and allow them to be responsible for their work and their time, we allow them to shine. We empower them.
     The opposite of this is diminishment and discouragement. When we are always being told what to do, and when and how to do it, we lose enthusiasm and go flat.

I empower others by trusting them.

Thursday, June 15, 2017

STEPPING UP

"Be what you are." 
~ Julius Charles Hare ~

Mighty spirit,
Born to fly free,
Locked in tangles
of projected misery.

Mighty spirit
Born to honor truth
Locked in silence
And being aloof.

Mighty spirit
Full of heart, full of life
Courageously step
into the light.

I stand for freedom.


Wednesday, June 14, 2017

TAKING A STAND

"I will not ask that you nor you approve. The wild thyme is itself nor asks consent of rose nor reed." 
~ Muriel Strode ~

It feels safe to hide, and yet, by hiding, we are inauthentic. We shrink from our lives and our choices and from being who we really are. We make ourselves wrong and guilty by avoiding what's uncomfortable. Let's have the courage to stand up, to stand out, and to stand for what we believe in. Let's have the courage to stand for exactly who we are.

I stand for authentic self-expression.


Tuesday, June 13, 2017

TRUTH AND FREEDOM

"The truth will out." 
~ William Shakespeare ~

To experience peace we have to face facts. We have to be willing to look at what's in front of us. Avoiding reality does not make it go away. Neither does pretending it's something it's not. Only an honest and un-biased view of what is can free us from what is. It seems unlikely, it seems un-necessary- we often don't want to face what's there, and yet, it is only in looking clearly, and in honestly seeing, that we are set free.

I take off my blinders and see.

Monday, June 12, 2017

READY, SET, CHOOSE

"Good instincts usually tell you what to do long before your head has figured it out." 
~ Micheal Burke ~

How can we act on knowing that a part of us doesn't want to know, because it means we will have to face something that we don't want to face? It seems easier to squash down our instincts, and play at everything being all right, but there is in-authenticity in this, and a price to pay down the road.
     We must choose a path. That is our responsibility. We can choose to go along and get along, or we can choose to honor our truth. And the action we take in making our choice is the very thing that will free us.

I choose which path to take forward every day that I live. 

Sunday, June 11, 2017

IN THE NAME OF PROGRESS

"You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, and know when to run..." 
~ Kenny Rodgers ~

I'm an expert at normalizing the abnormal and making the best of things. It's something I learned to do young, and have been doing all my life. When others are ready to cut bait, I am still looking and pretending that all is well, that it's really ok, that maybe it's not as bad as it seems. And at times, this has its advantages, and at times, it serves me somewhat well.
     But other times, it's a recipe for a kind of self-punishment, a make-it-work-or-else kind of approach to life that actually hampers growth and constrains progress instead of promoting it.

I commit to clear sight, honest appraisal, and right guidance.

Thursday, June 8, 2017

GUILT FREE LIVING

"Guilt is always hungry- don't let it consume you." 
~ Terri Guillemets ~

Guilt destroys the quality of life. It robs us of freedom and ease. It harps at us, scolding. It's full of shoulds and self-doubt and restriction and fear.
     Guilt is toxic and constrains us in ways so deep they are beyond our understanding. It makes us be in the world in ways that are not authentic or sincere.

I release the burden of guilt and live free.

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

USING LANGUAGE TO CREATE A WORLD

"I love the swirl and swing of words as they tangle with human emotions." 
~ James Michener ~

Language has power and words create our reality more than we realize. The immense weight we generate with all the things we "have" to do can be energetically shifted quite easily. Observe the difference:
1. I have to (or should) work out. (Burden)
2. I want to work out. (Pleasure)
3. I am going to work out. (Power)
4. I could work out. (Possibility)
     And there are other options as well, the option of choice itself, and gratitude- that we can do anything at all that we can do.
     So let's bring awareness to our language, and realize how our use or abuse of it is impacting our day.

I choose my words with consciousness and care.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

EVOLUTION BY DEGREES

"Very little grows on jagged rock. Be ground. Be crumbled, so wildflowers will come up where you are." 
~ Rumi ~

The rhythm of life we are living is not the only rhythm of life there is. Time and experience can be cyclical, and circular, and topsy turvy all over the map rather than linear, although that's not necessarily how it feels in the business world where all is deadline driven and seemingly so urgent.
     And yet, all things, even business projects, grow as in nature, by degrees, by the sun, and by the season. Let's align ourselves to these natural rhythms and allow our lives and projects to evolve naturally rather than be born by insistence.

I embrace the natural unfolding of life and myself.

Monday, June 5, 2017

CLAIMING INDEPENDENCE

"Work in the invisible world at least as much as you do in the visible." 
~ Rumi ~

I've spent most of my life being co-dependent- worrying what others are thinking, feeling punished by their silence, creating criticism out of thin air, but I'm done with it. Right now, in this moment, I claim my independence from the opinions of others, whether real or imagined. I act with love, choose with care, and live my best life being my best self. If others rally behind me I welcome it, and if some are flatly opposed, that's ok too. I'll take each relationship as it comes, deal with the facts as they arise, and turn off all creative speculation about what things may mean or not mean.

I live free from co-dependence. 

Sunday, June 4, 2017

THE LITTLE GIRL WHO MADE A DIFFERENCE

"You are only as beautiful as your last action." 
~ Stephen Richards ~

In line at Costco there is so much resignation. Exhausted bodies labor away from the cashiers with full carts, at the registers, serious, worried faces process their debit cards; those arriving and ready to check out nervously scan the aisles to ascertain which is fastest.
     And in the middle of it all, a little girl in white short leggings and a yellow tent-top is smiling and dancing. She's leaning over a stack of water bottle cases and then opening her arms to the sky. And she's making the adults who are with her smile as well.
     Most of the people around her are oblivious. I enjoy her antics. She makes me smile too.

Whatever I do has an effect on those around me.

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

PROMISE KEPT

"Let God's promises shine." 
~ Corrie Ten Boom ~

It's called a brave new world because it takes bravery to create a new world. It takes departure from all that is familiar and all that is known. It takes breaking away and setting forth. It takes an open mind and steady heart. It takes faith and action and endurance and strength.
     And the place we arrive is the place we trust in, and the dream is delivered, and the promise is kept.

I smile as the brave new world appears.

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

CONGESTION AND FREEDOM

"Let freedom ring!" 
~ Samuel Francis Smith ~

Congestion suffocates growth- congestion of any sort- of the mind, the body, the road that lies ahead... Congestion is blocking. It shuts things down. And we live in it. We create it. But it's not the only way.
     The other option is open space and freedom with no constraints, and when we get that, let's appreciate it. Congestion is bound to come, but not bound to stay, and freedom, wherever we feel it, is a blessing of the highest degree.

I celebrate freedom! 

Sunday, May 28, 2017

HONORING HEROES

"A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger thank oneself." 
~ Joseph Campbell ~

Remembering heroes.
Honoring what has been.
Expressing gratitude.
Acknowledging sacrifice.
Feeling loss, gain, compassion, love, and the glories of freedom.

I appreciate all those who serve. 

Thursday, May 25, 2017

BOUND FOR ADVENTURE

"I come to the forbidden edge.
I strap on the sheath of unfear and gird the strands of daring about me." 
~ Muriel Strode ~

We strike out for Montana with gusto and high hopes; with a bit of caution and a ton of risk. We are living large and playing with everything we've got. The stakes are appropriate for the experience we seek.
     Fresh and fearless, into the new day, we strike!

I am up for whatever comes!

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

THE POWER OF CHOOSING

"The gateways of wisdom and learning are always open, and more and more I am choosing to walk through them." 
~ Louise Hay ~

All the effort I've expended I have chosen to expend, and all the inner angst and sense of struggle as well. I have chosen my resentments, my fears, and my limiting beliefs. And they have held me back, by some kind of self-sabotaging design.
     But now, I'm choosing something different. I'm choosing choice itself, and freedom. I'm choosing adventure and the proposition of risk and reward. I'm choosing happiness, well-being, appreciation, and joy.
     Choice is my birthright and companion, my mother and closest friend. It represents an unlimited life where anything is possible, and that's the one I choose.

I live my life at the level of choice.

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

RESISTANCE

"I am free, no matter what rules surround me." 
~ Robert A Heinlein ~

There is power in resistance- the power of struggle and stubbornness- of being right and being justified. It's an oppositional kind of stance with arms crossed and a refusal to engage. It shuts us off from the world and from the expression of love and the experience of connection. It binds us in lock down, makes us miserable, and keeps us stuck.
     But we don't have to stay stuck. We can accept what is, agree to work with conditions as they are, and be honest about what we really want, which is likely peace of mind and to feel good. And that's what we can have as soon as we are willing to un-cross our arms.

I free myself from resistance and experience peace.

Monday, May 22, 2017

COMPLETION

"Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart." 
~ Kongzi ~

Sometimes completion comes with a ceremony, sometimes with a party, and sometimes with a vast and echoing emptiness. Whatever has happened is over, and there are feelings in every direction about that fact.
     What remains is what opens up- the clean space before us- where opportunity and the promise of a new adventure exist.

Each closure is an opening, and each ending a fresh start.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

ACKNOWLEDGING SELF

"Learn to be what you are... and to resign with good grace all that you are not." 
~ Henri Frederic Amiel ~

I acknowledge myself for being human- for having a big heart and big dreams, for having been hurt and having been blessed, for being loving and caring and working hard.
     I have come through difficulty and not been discouraged by it, failed in business and started anew. I have been steady and strong and willing and eager. I have done my best and admitted many wrongs.

I am what I am, and I'm not what I'm not- complete in being human.

Thursday, May 18, 2017

ACKNOWLEDGING MY DAUGHTER

"To send light into the darkness of mans' hearts- such is the duty of the artist." 
~ Schumann ~

I acknowledge my daughter, Sienna, for completing four years of college; for remaining true to her art even when she was misunderstood; for being a visionary, a creator on every level of her life, and an embodiment of the wild feminine.
     I acknowledge her for courage, heart, and willingness, and for being an individual on this earth who makes a difference in the lives of others.

I am inspired by the power of creative vision against all odds.

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

ACKNOWLEDGING MY SON

"Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself." ~ Kahlil Gibran ~

I acknowledge my son, Nick, today for a personal milestone of significance, for facing what was scary and unpleasant to face, for soldiering on with determination, resilience, and an open mind no matter what, for owning his part in his life experience, and for achieving a goal that matters.
   
I honor achievement and acknowledge the work that it took.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

ACKNOWLEDGING PARTNERS

"A partner is someone who makes you more than you are, simply by being by your side." 
~ Albert Kim ~

I acknowledge my husband for being the perfect mix of sensitivity and toughness, for being an excellent communicator, a creative problem solver, a loyal protector, and a man of his word. I acknowledge him for kindness, for compassion, for equal partnership, and for grand adventure! He is just right exactly the way he is, and I am blessed to share my life with him. :)

I celebrate loving partnership!

Monday, May 15, 2017

ACKNOWLEDGING FATHERS

"He didn't tell me how to live. He lived, and let me watch him do it." 
~ Clarence Budington Kelland ~

I acknowledge my father for providing structure in my life, for raising me with a sense of right and wrong, and for teaching me to read powerfully out loud. I acknowledge him for being brave, unique, creative, and principled; for valuing education, being willing to pay for things of quality, and standing for what matters. I acknowledge him for all the things he's taught me by being who he is, and for his having been willing to take risks over and over in his life.
     Today is his Birthday, and I thank him for all of the years past, and wish him well-being in all of the years to come.

I am thankful for my father.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

ACKNOWLEDGING MOTHERS

"The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness." 
~ Horace de Balzac ~

I acknowledge my mother for her contribution to my life; for her enthusiasm, integrity, courage, and resilience; for her driving me all over as a kid, teaching me what mattered, being encouraging, and appreciating me for who I am and loving me in spite of all my mis-adventures.
     I am grateful that she never lost faith in me, and for all the ways that she has positively impacted my life.

I recognize the contribution of my own mother, and of mothers all over the world.


Thursday, May 11, 2017

CONFRONTATION

"Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing." 
~ August Wilson ~

I have always considered myself a "non-confrontational" individual, and I am realizing lately that may not be true, and also that it is through confrontation that we evolve.
     When we confront death and our own mortality, we transform the way we live. When we confront the impact of our negative behavior on the condition of our lives, we can alter our behavior. We we confront what limits us, we can become unlimited. But it has to be a hard confrontation. A mini-acknowledgement that throws blame at others gets us nowhere. Confrontation, by its definition, creates discomfort in us. That discomfort is what we avoid, and ironically, that discomfort is the very thing that can ultimately set us free.

I confront the reality of how I am in the world and what it gets me.

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

INTO ACTION

"We... think too much and too morbidly- brood (and) become sickly with our own pallid fancies, allowing them to swarm upon us by night and by day." 
~ Mose Velsor ~

Some thoughts are more credible than others; and many are positively dis-regardable, nonsensical, wrong, destructive, unhelpful, and mis-guided. And if we hook in, our thoughts can make us believe what's not true, tie us in emotional knots, and torment us the same as any full-fledged interrogation.
     So we need to take our thoughts with a grain of salt, get out of our heads, act based on our values and commitments, and get into conversation and movement in the world, because that's where the results that we want actually show up.

When my mind is noisy and steering me astray, I get into action and remember that thoughts are just thoughts.

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

THE SLOW PROCESS OF LETTING GO

"Grieving is a necessary passage and a difficult transition to finally letting go of sorrow- it is not a permanent rest stop." 
~ Dodinski ~

I wish letting go were as quick and easy as it sounds, but more often, I find it's a process- a slow release over time. Hurts fade, what was sharp and poking softens; we accept acceptance and our muscles relax.
     Sometimes it does happens in an instant, it's true; and sometimes, we have to wait patiently for it to dissolve slowly... like a melting mountain of bulldozed snow in a parking lot.

I am willing to be patient and trusting, knowing that some things take longer to release than others.

Monday, May 8, 2017

ACTION!

"The shortest answer is doing." 
~ Lord Herbert ~

Thinking doesn't move us forward.
Action does.
Action is what creates new experience.
We can think all we want to about our plans and dreams, but until we do something to move us forward, we are nothing but spinning wheels.

If I want to get traction, I have to take action.

Thursday, May 4, 2017

LIVING LARGE

"To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself."
~ Soren Kierkegaard ~

Practicality has its place, but sometimes, we need to be impractical in order to feel vital and alive. We need to take a risk, step out of our comfort zone, and live large.
     Playing small makes us small, and restricts our options and our sense of well-being. Let's step out and be bold instead. Let's audaciously experience all the variability of life!

I am willing to be unreasonable once in a while in order to feel alive!

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

UNLIMITED ADAPTABILITY

"Your legs will get heavy and tired. Then comes a moment of feeling the wings you've grown lifting." 
~ Rumi ~

We are adaptable beyond our wildest imaginations, and yet, we so fearfully approach change. In the first moment we face something new and uncertain, we often balk and resist, backpedaling with all our might; but very quickly, especially if we know what's best for us and what we can control and what we can't control, we stop resisting and accept whatever has come. We settle in and feel good. And then we're resisting again, like a crazy, vicious cycle, with each new wrinkle in our plan.
     Let's surrender to all of it instead, and learn finally and absolutely to simply enjoy the ride!

I adapt fluidly and gracefully to whatever comes up.

Tuesday, May 2, 2017

LIFE IS A DYNAMIC DANCE

"Whosoever knoweth the power of the dance, dwelleth in God." 
~ Rumi ~

There are times when the best thing we can do is to stay put, and when being quiet and still serves us best. And then they pass, and movement returns. 
Life is a dynamic dance that never rests for long.

I move and bend with the rhythm of life.

Monday, May 1, 2017

WHEREVER WE ARE

"It is important that students bring a certain ragamuffin, barefoot irreverence to their studies; they are not here to worship what is known, but to question it."
~ Jacob Bronowski ~

It's ok to not know what we're doing and be at the bottom of the learning curve. So often, we want to pretend that we are further down the path than we are, but it's inauthentic to do so. Being a beginner has its advantages. For one thing, those who have gone before like to be able to teach us what they know and show us the way. We are all in it together, and helping each other out wherever we can is the natural and fulfilling cycle of human exchange.
     Plus, we have the advantage of a fresh perspective, and it's always possible that we might see things with our fresh eyes that have never been seen before.

I look to those ahead for a hand, and lend one to those coming up behind.

Sunday, April 30, 2017

OPENING TO TRANSFORMATION

"Transform what has been a hindrance in your life into a teacher of the heart." 
~ Phillip Moffett ~

How does transformation happen?
When we own it. When we claim it. When we speak it, and when we believe it.
Something begins in us as a spark- a glimmering of what could be...  and then we have to act, and decide, and commit.
We have to share about it so others can help us grow it with their enthusiasm and connections,
and we have to keep showing up.
That's the introductory process anyway. 
Once we set our intention and get into action, it's inevitable that transformation will happen, and when it does, it's generally in an instant when we are ready for it and the time is right. 
In a flash of clarity and pure sight, 
we are made new.

I open to inspiration and create newness in my life through action, intention, and the willingness to share.

Thursday, April 27, 2017

SURRENDER TO WIN

"If you surrender to the wind you can ride it." 
~ Toni Morrison ~

Real surrender exposes us to unlimited options. Not trying to control things let's be what is, and what is is something we can always deal with- not our thoughts about what is, or our manufactured meaning, just the simple space around life's happenings, and the trust that all is as it should be- good, bad, or indifferent, and that whatever happens will support us, or teach us, or break us down to seed so that we can come back and sprout yet again...

I allow for the breaking down process so that I can build up fresh.


Wednesday, April 26, 2017

THE NATURE OF TANGLES

"You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind..." 
~ Jim  Rohn ~

Some days, everything just gets jammed up and congestion, rather than flow, is the name of the game. We aim for clarity and end up in tangles. And when this is the way it's going, the only possibility for any kind of satisfying clearance is to acknowledge the tangles and accept that at times like this, all we can do is all we can do.

When life gets messy I let it be messy until the energy opens and shifts into clarity yet again. 

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

LETTING THE FUTURE UNFOLD

"He who seeks to know the future is out of harmony with the present." 
~ James Lendall Basford ~

Looking forward generates all kinds of possibilities for the way things could be, and we create images in the mind that please our sensibilities. And then, when reality takes over, or plans change, we have to adjust our inner pictures to accommodate the loss of our pleasing ideas. And sometimes this transition is easy, and sometimes it takes everything we've got.

I let go of all attachment regarding the unformed future, and grieve the loss of my celebrated and hoped-for ideas.

Monday, April 24, 2017

THE TALKING CURE

"Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud." 
~ Herman Hesse ~

Truncated communication strangles possibility and traps us inside our heads with questions and misconceptions, when, with a bit of honest sharing, we could so easily be... free.

No matter the conflict, I trust in the healing power of communication.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

OWNING OUR PART

"We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men."
~ Herman Melville ~

When things seem to go awry, it's instinctual for some of us to double back and re-trace our steps. What did we do, or fail to do, that contributed to the outcome that we got? The other option is to blame others and take no responsibility, but that's not the evolved way. We always have some kind of part in what happens, and acknowledging that is important, though it doesn't necessarily change the dynamic. Some things, for reasons beyond our understanding or control, are simply not meant to be.

I am sorry for my part in messy situations, and do my best to live right and in the light. 

Thursday, April 20, 2017

BEING WHOLE

"Namaste." 
~ Sanskrit Greeting ~

We are whole- not broken and not incomplete.
And we are unlimited- not doomed, oppressed, or irretrievably stuck.
In each and every moment we are the possibility of freedom, 
the channel of divinity, 
and the opportunity for pure love.

I am deeper than the surface and wise beyond my years.

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

100% POTENTIAL

"I wish that every human life might be pure transparent freedom." 
~ Simone de Beauvoir ~

Once upon a time, many moons ago, I was excluded from a party of my peers for being too much of a "goody-goody," and at the time, the judgment cut like a knife. I went on to prove them all wrong, and became rather a bad-ass, but that didn't capture me either- not fully. The real truth is so much simpler than any of that. The real truth is that I am bigger than any label, and freer than any kind of trapping judgment, and the real truth is that we all are.

I am pure energy, responsive to the experience of life. 

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

MAYBE NOTHING IS WRONG

"I am iron resisting the most enormous magnet there is." 
~ Rumi ~

All our antennae go up when we sense that something is wrong. We go to our default positions and coping mechanisms. We get defensive. We blame others, We retreat.
     But if nothing's really wrong, then there's nothing to defend, and we don't have to trail around old unfinished business from the past. We can be fresh and clear and responsive in the moment instead of telling ourselves stale stories from what happened long ago.

I open to the possibility that nothing needs fixing and all is well.

Monday, April 17, 2017

THINGS BEING WHAT THEY ARE

"Be ground. Be crumbled, so wildflowers will come up where you are." 
~ Rumi ~

Is it better to end slowly, by degrees, or just to end? There is something about dragging out a departure and good-byes that makes it almost excruciating, and yet, it does create a certain readiness and total completeness that isn't there with a quick cutting-off.
     Maybe neither is better. Maybe one is just one thing and the other just the other. We're always trying to make things mean something, but maybe they don't necessarily. Maybe stuff just happens, and our interpretations and speculations and determinations and worries are just that- and block us from the ability to simply experience what is.

I stop trying to figure everything out and get present to what's actually happening.

Sunday, April 16, 2017

KEEPING POWER

"Who am I to blow against the wind?" 
~ Paul Simon ~

It's fruitless to set ourselves up in opposition to the people we love. Blocking them in any way blocks us. We can allow for the way they show up in the world without taking it personally. We can give them their dignity and keep ours at the same time by setting boundaries where necessary and maintaining our inner calm.

I experience peace by keeping charge of my personal power.

Thursday, April 13, 2017

LOOSE AND EASY IN OUR OWN SKIN

"Become the sky. Take an axe to the prison wall. Escape." 
~ Rumi ~

We are so constrained by our desire to look good. There is tension in it- a lack of pure authenticity. It's as if we are filtered through our own self-consciousness, lacking relaxation, awkward in our own skin. And, generally speaking, it comes out most when we are meeting others for the first time. And it's exhausting. And it's uncomfortable. And it has a kind of shelf life beyond which we have to either get authentic, or escape. It's not sustainable to be fixed in looking good for too long a stretch. That's why we all need to get home at the end of the day and put on our jammies and let down our hair.

I learn to relax in the world so it's not so exhausting to be out and about. 

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

STRETCHING TO NEW HEIGHTS

"Connect movement with breath and spiritual meaning." 
~ Gurmukh Kaur Khalsa ~

Babies know the value of stretching, but as adults, we often forget the benefits- and stretching not only our bodies, but our minds and spirits as well. There is something about it- about moving and reaching and lengthening and twisting and bending, that both relaxes and enlarges us, that feels good, and allows for release, increased energy, stamina, circulation, and fresh perspective.

I stretch my muscles, my effort, and my imagination.

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

THE CYCLE OF CARING

"We must be our own before we can be another's." 
 ~ RW Emerson ~

I'm not sure where we learn to put ourselves last, but some of us do learn that somewhere along the way. We take care of everyone else first, and if there's anything left over- the dregs- that's what we get. And sometimes, what's left amounts to nothing, and we spend our days and weeks attending to the urgencies and emergencies of our work and family, and don't even bother or think about whatever we may need.
     And we dry up... eventually.
     But we needn't.
     It's the great irony of life that when we do right by ourselves, we do right by others. Effort and care is circular and must revolve.

I am good to myself, and that makes me good for others.


Monday, April 10, 2017

LETTING GO OF BEING RIGID

"Creative people are curious, flexible, persistent, and independent with a tremendous spirit of adventure and a love of play."
~ Henri Matisse ~

What if we stopped letting every little thing that people do and don't do get under our skin?
What if we could genuinely see all sides of every situation?
What if we didn't have to be rigid?
What if we didn't have to be right?

Where would that leave us?
Could we be... free?

I let people be who they are and where they are, and who and where they are not.

Sunday, April 9, 2017

GETTING STRAIGHT WITH OURSELVES AND OTHERS

"We excuse our sloth under the pretense of difficulty." 
~ Marcus Fabius Quintilian ~

It's easier to process "No," or "Not this time," or "I have a conflict," than a whole stream of excuses. What are we supposed to do with them?
     My neighbor's father died. I was on vacation and then my kids were sick. I mis-placed your phone number. I was so busy I couldn't take even five minutes to respond- seriously- I didn't even have five minutes!
     OK. But again, what are we supposed to do with that information? Apologize? Tell you not to worry, that we understand, that it doesn't matter... All of these feel a bit unsatisfactory. Just tell me what you can commit to, and let us both get on with our lives.

I live free from excuses.

Thursday, April 6, 2017

GOING FOR IT

"Let the beauty we love be what we do." 
~ Rumi ~

I'm not afraid of adventure or new things- not really. What scares me the most is how easily I can fool myself, and how automatically I squash myself down with who am I kidding thoughts, and wondering if I can really be so lucky as to follow my dreams...
     And yet, if I don't follow them, they will haunt me forever, so why not go for it? I have nothing to lose but my excuses and my fear.

I follow my passion and live from the heart.

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

INVITATION

"Long have you timidly waded, holding  a plank by the shore.
Now I will you to be a bold swimmer,
to jump off in the midst of the sea, rise again, nod to me, shout, 
and laughingly dash with your hair." 
~ Walt Whitman ~

We are more repressed than we realize, or can comprehend. We back ourselves into corners and trap ourselves in little boxes. We make up endless reasons why we can't and why we don't and why we won't. We live stultifying lives and think ourselves free. Let's think again, and reconsider the possibilities. Maybe we can, actually, and maybe we will. Maybe we needn't be small and quiet. Maybe life and God invite us daily to rise.

I honor the call to be my best self.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

BEING NEW

"You dance inside my chest... and that light becomes this art." 
~ Rumi ~

We have to practice being new. It doesn't just happen once and then it's over. Life cycles round and round again, and every time it turns, we must choose.
     Our old patterns reach out to grab us and pull us back, but if we commit to a fresh direction we can be refreshed. We have only to declare the path we're on day after day after day.

I decide my life one choice at a time.

Monday, April 3, 2017

ALIVE AND WELL

"Never explain. Your friends do not need it, and your enemies will not believe it." 
~ Elbert Hubbard ~

Direct, true, and real from the gut.
Unstuck.
Free in the moment and owning it.
Being me the best I can be.
Seeing clarity.
Feeling sanity.
Not bothering with what doesn't matter to me.
Alive and well.
No need for a shell.
Simply
As
I
Am.

The truth of me happens one minute at a time.

Sunday, April 2, 2017

CHOOSING WHAT WE CHOOSE

"I would not waste my life in friction when it could be turned into momentum." 
~ Frances Willard ~

I am tired of second guessing myself, of worrying what others might think about the decisions I'm making, and of wanting my father's approval. I don't need it.
     I choose what I choose because I choose what I choose. I don't have to explain it to anyone, nor should I question others about their choices, or doubt them, unless they specifically ask.
     It's exhausting to manage the world. I hereby declare that I have been in error, and going forth, I am willing to be ok with things and people being what they are and being what they are not. I needn't fix or advise or suggest or judge. I need only freely express myself in each moment, and be open to the possibility of love.

I get out of other people's business, and keep other people out of mine. 

Thursday, March 30, 2017

BEING FULLY ALIVE!

"Express yourself!"
~ Charles Wright and the Watts ~

When we are excited about something, I'm not sure where and how we learn that we should temper it and keep it constrained somewhat so as not to appear too bubbly. Why not? Our excitement excites others and spreads good feelings of possibility and hope.
     We are taught to dampen ourselves- that being exuberant is for children, and proper adult behavior is more serious than that. How dull! How droll! Let's consider the impact of years and years of squashing ourselves down- of being contained and constrained- and take back our right to authentic self-expression. Let's claim our right to be fully alive!

I increase my excitement and joy of being by sharing authentically with others. 

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

THE LIMITS OF NOT KNOWING

"Love what is." 
~ Byron Katie ~

We pretend without knowing that we are pretending, and act on our fears without knowing that we are afraid. Our not knowing keeps us shackled. But the moment we wake up and see - then the world becomes a playground, and each day becomes a blessing for being alive. The moment we start to pay attention, we can live honestly in each moment. We can stop making up stories and treating them as truth.

I stop creating endless meaning and let each moment be as it is.




Tuesday, March 28, 2017

LASER BEAM REALITY

"The struggle ends when the gratitude begins." 
~ Neale Donald Walsch ~

We complain more than we realize- about the way things are, about the circumstances in which we find ourselves, about our health, the weather, politics, and the state of the world. And by pointing out everything that's wrong, we see and experience more of what is wrong. But there's another choice, and it's simple: appreciation for the way things are, for the circumstances of our lives, for our health, the weather, politics, and the state of our world.
      We can focus on either. The good and the bad exist side by side.

I focus on what I want to experience.


Monday, March 27, 2017

WHO WE ARE

"A secret freedom opens through a crevice you can barely see." 
~ Rumi ~

Honest communication with everyone we encounter is the elixir of good living. In this way, we can connect with others at a level of authenticity that refreshes us both. It takes some courage, the willingness to be fully human, and the sincere acceptance of our own vulnerability. But the result of allowing ourselves to completely be who we are is more than worth it- it's genuine well-being, truth at the core level, and the experience of unconditional love.

I am totally real with people so they can be totally real with me.

Sunday, March 26, 2017

RECIPROCITY

"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." 
~ Thich Nhat Hanh ~

Life is so reciprocal! When we help others become clear, we become clear ourselves, and when we create new possibilities for ourselves, we create new possibilities for everyone around us as well. And it works with negativity the same way. When we are angry, irritable, judgmental, or fearful, that's the energy we spread, and that's what it feels like to be in our company.
     So it really is true that what we send out comes back to us and what we contribute is returned. understanding this, let's be mindful of our inner space, our willingness to be open, and our intention to be free.

I am careful and conscious as I travel the road.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

DELICIOUSNESS

"Science has never drummed up quite as effective a tranquilizing agent as a sunny spring day." 
~ W. Earl Hall ~

There are few things in this life as delicious to me as warm sun and a cool gentle breeze- cool enough to wear a jacket, warm enough to not need gloves. The sun, at such times, is a source of love no less than a smile, or a long enveloping hug.

I am grateful for the sunshine on still-crisp early spring days.

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

SECOND-GUESSING

"The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt." 
~ Sylvia Plath ~

I realized today how often I second guess myself. I do something and then I think I shouldn't have done it, or I should have done it differently. I fret over how it might be received- not always, thankfully, but often enough to impact my journey through the day.
     So next time I catch myself in the act, I'm going to stop myself and remember that what's done is done, what will be will be, and regret is a sorry waste of my time. The fresh and possibility rich future awaits.

I let the past be past and come into the purity and clarity of NOW. 

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

HEALING BEASTS

"I think I could turn and live with animals,
They are so placid and self contained." 
~ Walt Whitman ~

There is something centering and healing about interacting with animals. They bring us smack dab into the present moment with the sheen of their coats or feathers, the cock of their heads, the sound of their breathing, and the penetrating all-knowing gaze of their eyes.
     To be able to share this life on earth with the beauty and fascination and comfort of animals is an extraordinary blessing and an incontrovertible gift.

I appreciate the grace and authenticity of animals.

Monday, March 20, 2017

OUT AND IN

"Each of us is a being in himself and a being in society." 
~ Haniel Clark Long ~

Sharing our experience with others expands our experience, and taking time alone to process and absorb it anchors it within. There is a need in us for both- for communication as well as contemplation. We are all extroverts and all introverts in turn. We are individual and community. We are a part of, and complete as one.

I show up and share myself with others, and retreat to refresh and rejuvenate.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

GETTING STRAIGHT

"When the time comes to let it go, let it go." 
~ Mary Oliver ~

Patterns of dysfunctional thinking and behaviors run our lives, the things we tell ourselves are often untrue, and the things we do often hurt us more than they help. Let's bring attention to our actions and words and be willing to leave some here and there along the wayside.

I let go of the thoughts and behaviors that are dragging me down.


Thursday, March 16, 2017

JAM-PACKED LIVING

"Don't let the city steal your soul." 
~ Terri Guillemets ~

I sometimes try to fit just one more thing into a limited amount of time, and often, I successfully do just that, and feel a sense of victory for it. But then I find that it squeezes me elsewhere as well. It makes me rushed as I move into the next thing, and leaves a trail of high-intensity energy.
     And if I do that enough, it seriously affects my quality of life. Jam-packing my minutes  doesn't allow for space, and space is what's needed for appreciation. Everything I have to do will get done, whether I relax about it or create pressurized stress, so I'd do far better to choose relaxation as the option, and experience the benefits of life without constraints as the result.

I stop over-doing and allow for empty moments in my schedule and my life.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

STANDING UP

"The time and place are mine when I am equal to the time and place." 
~ Muriel Strode ~

Confidence. It's important and impactful. Do we have it? Do we not? Is it possible for others to topple us over with a look or a word?
     It's not always easy to own our gifts and to stand for them. Critical voices in our heads from our past discount us and shrink us.
     Let's become aware of these voices and quiet them down. Let's rise up and stand up and be who we are. Let's wear ourselves with confidence and share ourselves boldly with the world. Let's believe deeply that we matter, and that what we have to offer counts.

I am confident in who I am.

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

LIVING BY CHOICE

"Life's real name is Choices." 
~ Terri Guillemets ~

Choosing has nothing to do with logic or reasoning or justification, though we may tell ourselves that it does. It has only to do with choice. We choose something as it is because we choose something as it is. There's no other way to choose it- not because we should, or because someone else wants us to, or because we think it will bring some particular result. All these conditions imply the past and the future, hopes, expectations, fears, and assumptions, and the choice happens NOW, in the moment.
     We don't have to explain our choice, not to ourselves or anyone else. We have only to make it.

I consciously choose my possibility moment by moment by moment.


Monday, March 13, 2017

THE FALLACY OF OUR THINKING

"The forceps of our minds are clumsy things and crush the truth... in the course of taking hold of it." 
~ HG Wells ~

Misunderstanding runs rampant in the world. We walk around telling ourselves made-up stories about why everyone around us is doing what they're doing, what it means, and how we should react. We experience the world through the filters of our foggy vision and our glasses du jour- not as things are, but as we interpret them.
     Let's catch ourselves creating meaning in our heads and allow for the possibility that we don't know what we don't know.

I stop thinking about what everything means and let people and situations simply be what they are.