"It is the unspoken words that spoil in the mind."
~ Margie Piercy ~
In some ways, unacknowledged stuff has as much power over us, and possibly more so, than extreme challenges that we face head-on. There's something invasive to the spirit about remnant hurts from the past that have never been cleared. Like boll weevils in a cotton crop, they spread, and do devastating damage.
I used to think it was possible to just move on and let by-gones be by-gones and never speak of them again, but I'm not sure I feel that way anymore. To speak of what is left ugly and unresolved in our history is to heal it by properly honoring the fact that it happened. To act as if it never happened at all feels like betrayal and pretense and leaves its own kind of new trauma in present time.
I talk about hurts from the past in order to clear them and take away their sting.