"To live is so startling it leaves little time for anything else."
~ Emily Dickenson ~
Insofar as we will allow others to help us we can be helped. But we can be as stubborn on this front as on all fronts- hard headed and resistant to what is not our own idea. And then, alone and stubborn, we suffer in fear. There is love and healing to be had and to go round, but we can refuse it if we choose to. That is our right, and our choice must be respected.
And it's hard to be on both ends of this deal- hard on the suffering alone front, and hard on the sending love front. But we have to meet each other exactly where we are. That in itself is the loving journey.
I respect your path, even if it hurts me to witness your choices.