So how do we negotiate our world when we are attacked and when all attempts at reasonable resolution are rejected? I suppose we have to assess each situation and measure the relative costs. There is a cost for action and a cost for doing nothing. We must find the path that most honors our values and our truth, but above all, we must not thrust forward into battle without consideration. We must engage with great care so as to keep our integrity intact. We cannot be explosive and reactive and expect to walk away feeling good. We have to know what we are about, and assert our position with firm clarity and grace. If we stoop to recklessness and vengence we lose before we have begun. Nobility is more about maintaining boundaries than sacking the innocent masses.
In our hearts we know what's right, and what's right action, and the difference between being assertive and being belligerent. Doing the one thing we sleep well at night, and doing the other we lay awake fretting and trying to justify our misdeeds.
I don't automatically lash back when I am attacked. I take a considered approach and evaluate the costs. When I choose to move forward, it is with assurance and a great state of calm.