If we can accept that fact, we needn't let it break our hearts. We can give what we have to give as long as we are willing to give it, and then let go- with love and compassion. We can detach. That's what I know and what I've always heard. But I'm not so good at it really. I seem to care too much in a dysfunctional sort of way. I suppose, like all of us, I am a work in progress.
I can't please everyone, even if I want to, so I am willing to give what I can, and then surrender the rest.