People do not always behave the way they should, and some are unpredictable and difficult by nature- by nature of their mentality or possibly their circumstances. We are triggered into drama and defense and disbelief. How can they behave that way? We wonder. How can they be so inappropriate, so off-base, so out-of-line and out-of-touch? And yet, our wondering leads us nowhere. They simply do what they do and behave the way they behave, and all we can do is experience the ride and observe our instinct to get caught up and pulled out of whack, and then make the choice not to.
As a general rule, things are not nearly as complicated as we think they are. We cannot control other people so we don't have to try. We can set boundaries and make choices. It's always up to us. We can choose the adrenalin rush of creating a tornado, or we can sit back and let the drama unfold around us. It's the difference between standing outside with a lightning rod during a thunderstorm, or taking cover and watching the show.
I allow others their right to insanity, but do not have to participate. I remember that I have a choice.