"Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him."
~Booker T Washington ~
Real love trusts the other completely and drives him back to himself. It does not lecture and posture and pretend to know better and to know what's best. Instead it says, "You know. Trust yourself."
Such a love is rare, but it does exist. It leads by example and takes full responsibility for itself. And for everyone else, it simply extends appreciation and this solid, unbending trust.
I do not try to control the people I love but trust them to handle their own feelings and situations and to ask for help when they need it.