"Take responsibility for your own progress."
~ I Ching ~
It's not always easy or possible to clean-up life messes that we've made. Sometimes there's a process by which we have to suffer the chaos in order to fully appreciate the error of our ways. We want to get in the clear, and wash our hands of whatever the mess may be. But sometimes, our hands are stained, and it's only time that will clean them fully.
Other people can't clean up my messes for me. I have to do that for myself.