"Who will tell whether one happy moment of love or the joy of breathing or walking on a bright morning and smelling the fresh air is not worth all the suffering and effort which life implies."
~ Erich Fromm ~
Our German Shepherd has arthritis in his knee, and chewing on it seems to make him feel better, but when he does that it creates an open sore, so, it's likely not the best solution. And yet, don't we all do that?
It feels satisfying somehow to gnaw away at whatever's uncomfortable, to bring attention to it, to constantly lick and bite at it in an effort to make it go away. But it doesn't go away. Approaching it this way only makes it bigger and more uncomfortable. So what's the answer?
Address the issue in the healthiest way possible, seems to me- take progressive action if that's an option, do what we can to promote correction and reconciliation, and then leave it alone.
In challenging situations, I do what I can, and then stop.