"Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment."
~ Rumi ~
It's the obvious thing to do to assume that others, especially others that we know and respect, are just like us in terms of what they need, what's healing, what feels good, what hurts, and what helps. We assume that our experience of the world is also their experience, that our indignation is also their indignation, and that our joy is their joy.
And yet, that's simply not the way it is. When we sincerely listen to others for understanding in conversion, we discover a broader view, their true perspective, and the exciting terrain of uncommon ground.
I don't pretend to know what others like and don't like and want and don't want. I let them show me and tell me and trust them when they do.