It's like banging into a wall. I know the wall is there and I know it hurts to bang into it, but for whatever reason, I just can't quite accept that it's absolutely there forever and always... because I'd rather it not be. Perhaps I think I can will it away if I just keep trying...
It seems like I could save myself a lot of trouble by accepting things as being the way they are on the first go round.
I stop trying to make things other than they are by insisting that they be that way.