"Life is change."
~ Heraclitus of Ephesus ~
When something unexpected comes along- a sickness, an accident, a death- we cannot return to life as we have known it. We are changed by what we've been through, not in our essence perhaps, but most definitely in our perspective. Nothing looks or feels the same, and much as we might want what we had, we are newly opened to all that wasn't conceivable before. We are cracked apart so fresh light can shine in.
I stop trying to have things be the way they were and allow them to be the way they are.
