But often, what is actually needed is less effort, and more flow; more surrender and rhythm and instinct and the natural order of things. Whether it's hitting a golf ball, or playing soccer, or trying to get pregnant, or writing a novel, or proving a point, if we can relax and let go, we can release enough pressure to allow for grace and shifting movement.
It's obsessive wanting and insisting that creates the pressure that gets us stuck in the first place. It is difficult to accomplish things by force. If it's not happening, we need to leave it alone. We need to back off and get out of the way.
We get so attached to outcomes and our belief that things are supposed to be a certain way, and that we should be able to do this and do that... Getting frustrated at not being able to do so creates angst and tension and all the wrong kind of energy. When we find ourselves stuck, we have to be willing to do less instead of more. As long as we hold on and force our will, we are locked in stalemate with the way things simply are. When we are willing to change our approach, we are rewarded with new solutions and success that comes easily.
We are brought up to believe that we are supposed to try as hard as we possibly can, and then try harder still, but the truth is that if we try too hard, then we actually end up sabotaging ourselves every step of the way.
I catch myself in the energetic struggle of trying too hard to get something done that doesn't seem to want to get done. I am willing to back off and let go.
