"Take-it-easy and Live-long are brothers."
~ German Proverb ~
But the only thing that resolves tension ultimately is the act of letting go- letting go of "shoulds," letting go of attachment and aversion, letting go of straining effort, and letting go of holding on. Easier said than done perhaps.
It starts with noticing that we are caught up, and then, choosing to stop, consider, breathe, and re-direct.
I feel tension building within me, and let go before it takes me over.